Parenting

Proud to be called ‘Mum’

September 22, 2015
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My daughter is currently a parrot. We have so far avoided a rather dramatic repetition of any profanity in the middle of our local supermarket.

For this I am forever grateful.

However, the other day she repeated something that stopped me in my tracks. At the top of her lungs she shouted; ‘Gemma, look at this.’ Gah!

I looked at her in complete and utter shock. It was like she had just said the grown up version of *sugar* or *fudge* For the first time she had just called me by my ‘real’ name.

It had never occurred to me that I would be so fiercely protective of my ‘new’ name and identity when I had children. I’m actually quite the opposite; I have been determined to prove that having children hasn’t changed ‘me.’ I worked far too hard whilst pregnant, I’ve tried hard not to allow my house to become overrun by toys; instead to be a balanced environment. But in that moment I realised that it upset me. It upset me that she called me by my ‘grown up’ name and knew that I had a different identity.

I am her mummy, not her friend, not her colleague.

I felt like she had just discovered who I really was. I was no longer her idol, her best friend, her protector, her Supermum… I was just Clark Kent.

I know that the day will come when she pushes the boundaries teenage-style and casts aside the comforting maternal name for me; by calling me ‘Mum’, ‘Whatever,’ or ‘You’reSoUnfair.’

But for now I want to be Mummy and everything that it encompasses, for as long as possible.

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12 Comments

  • Reply Jen @ 4,128 miles September 22, 2015 at 9:33 am

    Gosh I know what you mean! Mummy is such an important identity and I would feel very strange too if my little man called me Jennie. It is funny though, it’s getting closer – I’m sure of it. The other day I shouted to my husband and Mr Sausages mimicked me shouting out for his Dad using his real name. It shocked me and made me feel very lazy for just shouting at hubby in the kitchen rather than get up myself and go get the ‘red sauce’. Oh well. Lesson learnt! #twinklytuesday

    • Reply Gemma Metcalfe-Beckers September 22, 2015 at 1:35 pm

      Hahaha that’s amazing, nothing should get in the way of your need for red sauce though! Thanks for stopping by x

  • Reply Coombe Mill - Fiona Cambouropoulos September 22, 2015 at 11:59 am

    Hang onto Mummy for as long as you can, you will always be Mummy but from around 8 mine became reluctant to call me that, now Mummy is very rare, Mum quite common and “Mother” from the teens is norm, but I don’t let them call me Fiona, though I’m sure they have all tried at some stage! #Twinklytuesday

  • Reply Adrian September 22, 2015 at 10:10 pm

    Thats very funny – but I am told it is a phase many toddlers go through so Im waiting for ours to join in. At the moment if its any consolation I am mummy too and random people on the TV are daddy. What-eveeer!
    I’m sure you’ll be mummy again soon and Gemma will go back in the box until she’s 14 or so. Nice blog by the way!
    #twinklytuesday

    • Reply Gemma Metcalfe-Beckers September 26, 2015 at 12:46 pm

      Hahaha gender mix up, it makes me want to fall to my knees in a Hollywood Movie style and wail “don’t you know who I am” followed by a Darth Vader growl / Batman grumble “I am your mother.” Thanks for stopping by linky friend!

  • Reply Lisa (mummascribbles)) September 24, 2015 at 10:13 pm

    I so agree with you! Zach has just learnt our names and only ever uses them in a cheeky manner or repeating us. I don’t like it though! Mummy is such an important name for us! Although saying that, at the moment he says it repeatedly which I could sometimes do without! Mummy, mummy, mummy, mum, mum, mummy! Even if I respond, he won’t stop saying until I look at him haha! Thanks so much for linking up with #TwinklyTuesday

    • Reply Gemma Metcalfe-Beckers September 26, 2015 at 12:42 pm

      Hahah children make the best wordsmith woodpeckers don’t they! Thanks for your lovely comment. I do love a Twinkly Tuesday reading session x

  • Reply Julia @ Rainbeaubelle October 4, 2015 at 8:59 pm

    Awwww that is funny, you know what, I feel the same and want to be mummy for so long but Florence has recently been calling me Jules and I’m torn between thinking it is cute and cringing! Thanks for much for linking to #sundaystars xx

  • Reply New Mummy Blog October 4, 2015 at 10:22 pm

    So true! You are mummy, I don’t know what I’d think if H stated calling me my real name, I’m her mummy and that’s that :-) #sundaystars

  • Reply Mrs H October 10, 2015 at 12:06 am

    This is such a gorgeous post. I feel every word of this. I remember being a child and discovering my mum’s real name. I was shocked and a little disappointed. But I can imagine that I will be a little heartbroken when I hear Little Miss H say my proper name for the first time. Hugs Mrs H xxxx

    • Reply Gemma Metcalfe-Beckers October 10, 2015 at 7:45 am

      Thank you so much for having a read and taking the time to comment. Have a lovely weekend xx

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